Today that number is not so much as bad luck, as it’s inspiring.
I haven’t posted in a while. It’s a bit difficult finding time in a busy day (while being watched) to post something worthwhile.
But I read something amazing yesterday. And I said to myself, THIS will have to be posted. So here goes:
It opens up with a scary quote.
Somebody once told me the definition of hell:
“On your last day on earth, the person you became will meet the person you could have become.” — Anonymous
Yeah….I know. That alone started a whole re-evaluation process in my mind. Ok so anyway, herewith the rest. I’m just copying the main points. Please do yourself a favour and go read the in-depth article.
1. Give Up On The Unhealthy Lifestyle
2. Give Up The Short-term Mindset
3. Give Up On Playing Small
4. Give Up Your Excuses
5. Give Up The Fixed Mindset
6. Give Up Believing In The “Magic Bullet.”
7. Give Up Your Perfectionism
8. Give Up Multi-tasking
9. Give Up Your Need to Control Everything
10. Give Up On Saying YES To Things That Don’t Support Your Goals
11. Give Up The Toxic People
12. Give Up Your Need To Be Liked
13. Give Up Your Dependency on Social Media & Television
The points that got to me personally was no. 4, 11, and 12. How often don’t we make excuses for our behaviour. “Oh no I can’t stop eating chocolate because I love it and that’s just who I am.” – “Hmm yeah, I can’t really change my way of thinking because that’s just who I am.” “I know what I’m doing is not right, and I feel bad, but that’s just a part of me, it’s who I am.”
BULLSHIT. We live in an ever changing world. We expect things to change. Our jobs. Our lives. Our partners or spouses. We expect change all the time. So we can change bad habits and excuses too.
No. 11 is just that. Get rid of people sucking the life out of you. Demotivating you. Emotionally draining you to a point where you might feel like you don’t even want to answer a message or call anymore. Are they always ALWAYS relying on you? Are they always expecting stuff from you whether emotional or financial support? Are they making you feel worthless with their (sometimes unknowingly) manipulation skills? Get rid of them. Nicely. You deserve to grow. And they deserve to learn and change and become better people.
And good old no. 12. I have had so much people pleasing issues. It’s still there, but it’s better. I’m learning slowly but surely that if I want to do something or not, I will. Not because someone is telling or asking me to. I’m generally a very giving person. So just combine your good qualities with what you want to or can do. Don’t give up on who you are just to prove that you really don’t care what people think about you. You shouldn’t care either way 😀
Well, there you go. Another mouthful. Peace!